Okay, let’s talk about this whole “living in the season you’re in” shebang. No, I don’t mean the later sunrises or the lovely, new blooming flowers, or anything like that. I’m talking about real everyday life. The stuff that happens in between all those picture-perfect dreams and places we’re so desperate to get to. I’m talking about the chaos; the real, unedited messy, wish-it-didn’t-have-to-happen stuff. The stuff we gotta wade through before we make it to the dreamy stuff.
Yup, THAT stuff.
I know, it’s not easy to talk about things we’d much rather pretend don’t exist.
It’s soooo much easier to pop onto social media and share the highlight reel, isn’t it?
I get it.
It’s those coffee-spill, ugly crying, stomping feet moments that no one ever sees.
Because it’s not pretty to talk about. When we see successful people, we hear about how they started from next to nothing, and that’s all good and inspiring. But, how often do we get a real sense of all the crazy hard stuff they went through – underneath the tip of the iceberg everyone else sees?
That middle part? AKA – the real shit.
I was in the gym the other day, walking on the treadmill and listening to one of my favourite podcasts (because this is the only way I get to the gym these days) and I heard this phrase: “Live the season you’re in”. And it got me thinking… It was really like this big AHA light-bulb moment. (I’m pretty sure I was nodding my head and smiling like a moron, too).
After the silly smiling and happy feels, I felt a little guilty and it got me thinking two things…
- How quick am I to always be wishing this hard phase would pass so I can get to the good stuff?
- How much time do I spend daydreaming about “one day” success instead of living in the now?
Always wanting more; never satisfied with right now.
Ambition – it’s a double-edged sword sometimes.
Anyway… it got me thinking about this whole creative journey I’m on. About how it SO is not turning out the way I’d planned and how desperate I am to just get to the EASY part. And it doesn’t matter if you’re working for yourself, or trying to start a blog, or working on something in your personal life – we ALL have to trudge through the swamp in order to get the pretty little cabin by the lake. You know what I mean?
So I’m trying something new from this month – with it being spring and fresh beginnings and all…
I’m accepting the NOW.
It’s hard. So hard, because I almost feel like I could dream for a living (and make good money from it!) But the more I think about embracing this “season I’m in”, the more I’m like, “OKAY, yes… noooow I get it.”
They say that anything good worth having in life is never free or easy. Otherwise, everyone would be doing it.
To get to the amaaaazing stuff, I need to go through the hard and messy. There are no freebies, especially in the creative world where it feels like everyone and their mother is starting a blog or setting up a creative biz on the side. (It’s true!)
Also… the uncomfortable sets us apart.
It creates our STORY. Our unique story. No one else is going to go through what you go through; everyone’s journey – be it a personal or career-related one – is different. And you know what’s great? I feel like (actually, I KNOW from experience), the hard times and lessons we learn in these times, are what make us stronger, braver, and more confident.
It’s what pushes us to keep those goals in mind.
AND, the best part? It’s what inspires someone else to bravely take that tiny (or gigantic) risk and go for what they want in life. Because really, I’m all for living in the now, but if you don’t have goals or hopes or dreams, what’s the point?
So, if my mistakes, embarrassing “coffee spilling” moments can motivate that? Then I say, bring on the mess and I’ll do my best to own this (hopefully) little storm of a season I’m in, while trying to remember to seek out the rainbows.