Wouldn’t it be nice if we could block off an entire weekend and dedicate it to self care?
Funny story; I actually wrote an entire blog post about that before this, and then I realised it wasn’t very realistic. I mean, that’s the dream, right? And it’s definitely doable, don’t get me wrong… You just need to plan it. Map out that self care weekend on the calendar and you can absolutely do it.
But, the truth is… most of our weekends are very BUSY.
We’ve ALL got responsibilities (some more than others) – family time, house chores (urg), grocery shopping, personal errands… and then of course, seeing friends or spending quality time with our partners.
Doesn’t leave a lot of room for self care, does it?
Well, the truth is there’s no such thing as not having enough time. It’s all about setting priorities.
And self care my friend, is a pretty BIG one. So, grab a cuppa, because I’m sharing some simple ways to add more self care into your weekend.
Let’s dive in!
First of all… Is Self Care Selfish?
NO, no, absolutely not, hell to the no!
Self care is not selfish. It’s not a luxury and it’s not something to just push aside for “when” there’s time. Like that’s really going to happen! Self care is refueling yourself so that you’re able to give to those in your life. It’s doing something with intention in order to take care of our mental, physical and emotional health.
So why the post on self care over weekends, then?
Well, I did a poll on Instagram recently asking people if they prioritised self care enough over the weekend. And you know what? A whopping 64% said probably not. That’s a LOT!
It got me thinking about how important it is to MAKE time for ourselves and make self care more of a priority. Because, again… the whole mental health aspect – it’s soooo important, especially in this constant go-go-go culture we live in today.
Here are a few simple ideas for injecting a little more “me time” into your weekends…
5 Ways to Prioritise Self Care Over Weekend
1. Block off time to do “nothing”
Yup. Really. We’re always so busy trying to squeeze in time for this and that when there’s a free moment (ahem, like blogging *cough* *cough*), that we forget what just “being” and enjoying quiet time is like.
When was the last time you lay on the bed and just thought about things?
Or took a nap for that matter!
We don’t have to fill our weekends to the max in order to get the most from them.
Sometimes what’s really needed is a whole lot of down time. I like to use these “nothing time” moments to meditate or just relax on the bed with my feet up. No TV. No phone. No book.
Just chill out and give my brain a break.
2. Start your Saturday morning right
I know, this might be a little tricky if you live somewhere that’s really cold right now – but, if it’s not too freezing, go for it. Nothing like a nice fresh start to the weekend!
Starting your Saturday outside (especially in nature) has a way of setting a positive tone for the rest of the weekend.
I don’t know if you’ve ever done a Saturday parkrun, but this is such a feel-good way to start the weekend! Even if you walk it (I do!). Some light exercise in nature with the promise of hot coffee afterwards? Yes, please!
Some other ideas you could try…
- Go for a hike
- Have breakfast out in nature – a park, the beach, etc.
- Visit your local weekend market (so much fun)
- Sit outside in your garden and just enjoy a cup of coffee without rushing to do anything
3. Make it a pajama day (or weekend!)
This is one of my favourite things to do over the weekend, because it reminds me of being a kid again. And you don’t even have to spend the whole day in your jammies, it can be half the day too!
Weekends are supposed to be fun and relaxing, but we spend so much time rushing around and trying to squeeze extra stuff in. Making time to just chill in your PJs and catch up on Netflix or binge-watch a few movies is such a great way to relax and recharge.
(And, please don’t listen to anyone who tells you it’s a waste of time or mindless junk. Do what YOU enjoy doing, end of story).
I actually look at our calendar and “block off” time to do this at least once a month. Or, I try really hard to – and usually get it right.
The great thing about this is, you can get your partner to get some down time, too – or even make it a fun family activity. Get snacks, play games, read, watch movies… whatever. Just create that block of time to CHILL.
4. Practice the art of saying “no”
People pleasers… this one’s for you. I had a friend once who never had a weekend to herself. EVER.
She’d say yes to every single social event she was invited to (and there were a lot) and when I asked her about it, she said she always went, because she didn’t want to let anyone down. I remember how she’d moan that she never had time for herself and how she “wished” she’d have a weekend to just veg and watch TV.
I remember telling her that no one would mind if she said no every now and then.
Now, don’t get me wrong – I love spending time with friends and family. BUT, I’ve said no to plenty of things over the years, because I value my time, too. And I know that if I say yes all the time, I’ll burn out. I guess it’s one of the perks of being an introvert… you love your own company. This is probably a little harder for extroverts, but it’s DOABLE.
One word: No.
Or, maybe try something a little less blunt, like…
- I can’t make it this time, but how about taking a rain check for ____?
- I’m busy that weekend, unfortunately. Let’s make another plan. Does _____ work for you?
(See how I’m not saying “sorry” here? That’s a people pleasing recovery trick I’m trying. I used to be one of those people who said sorry for EVERYTHING. It’s practice, but it really does work the more you do it. Just like saying “no”).
Now, if saying no is too big of a jump right now, try limiting your social time.
So maybe, instead of staying at a dinner party for 5 hours (or until everyone leaves), stay for half the time.
You are allowed to say no. You don’t have to attend every social event or stay the entire time if what you really need is some quiet R&R at home because you’ve had a week from hell.
Self care is not selfish. I repeat: self care is NOT selfish.
5. Treat yourself… Do your own thing
Now this one might seem a little controversial if you’re in a relationship, but hear me out.
I don’t mean spend the WHOLE weekend locked in a room watching your favourite movies while your partner wonders what to do and feels like a total outsider. Nooooooooo! Please, no. That’s not the idea here.
What I mean is this: make time to do your own thing – without your partner for a little while over the weekend. It will give you both a chance to focus on your own interests for a bit, which makes it fun, because then you have something else to talk about over dinner.
And honestly? My hubby is most certainly not going to sit through Pitch Perfect 3 with me for some quality time. We prefer doing things together that we BOTH enjoy. Like wine tasting, hiking, or watching the latest show on Netflix.
So, maybe this little “me time” for you might look something like…
- Going to the gym for two hours – working out, sitting in the steam room and having a smoothie
- Taking yourself out for a cup of coffee and reading a magazine
- Treating yourself to a movie… when last have you gone to a movie by yourself?
- Enjoying some “me time” while your partner goes out for a bit to see friends
You get the idea.
I think it’s so important to create space to do this. Especially if you work surrounded by people all week. Having that little time to yourself is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself over the weekend.
Right, that’s a wrap…
Hopefully I’ve inspired you to inject a little more self care into your weekend!
I’m always up for doing the same, so if you have anything that’s working for you right now, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!